There are many reasons why relationships might fail and all these depend on the individuals involved and society’s view or acceptance.
Relationships fail for a number of reasons and most common is failure to work out their problems or betrayal such as lies and infidelity. While some couples drift apart over time and eventually break up others face more heartbreaking issues in their relationship and seek to end the relationship.
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What percentage Of Relationships Fail?
It is heartbreaking to see a relationship end but sadly data from the American Psychological Association suggests that as many as 50% of marriages in the United States eventually end in divorce. This is a high statistic and it discourages some people from getting married.
Top Reasons Why Relationships fails
- Incompatible values.
- Holding onto the past.
- Finding someone else.
- Avoiding the big issues.
- Intimacy.
- Lack of common goals.
- poor communication
- Lack of compromise
- Emotional or physical abuse.
Incompatible values.
Having different values in life can be a problem for couples. This usually manifests itself later on in the relationship and instead of focusing on the things that bring them together, people tend to open their eyes to the things that make them different.
When everything is going smoothly people tend to ignore the things that make them different but when things get hard, these differences are magnified and this causes a problem.
Having different values is a hard one to navigate, both parties have to be willing to compromise to stay together and have a healthy relationship especially when they are from completely different backgrounds. This is often much easier said than done and this is why it is one of the contributing reasons why relationships fail.
Holding onto the past.
Holding on to the past is another reason why relationships fail. This is because it limits your possibilities and your chances to grow as a couple. Betraying someone’s trust is the foundation for insecurities. It is hard to let go of such betrayal and the doubt it brings between the couple. It makes it impossible to focus on the present and the future you have together when one of you is living in the past, especially when that past is filled with pain, lies and betrayal. This divides your emotions and makes it hard to connect with your partner on a deeper level. This leaves you emotionally separated and after a while might cause the relationship to fail if you are unable to overcome the problem.
Finding someone else.
Finding someone else is a major contributor to why a relationship fails. For most people, this is the line they won’t Cross and this is a line they won’t come back from, which is understandable because such betrayal is hard to forgive and it’s hard to look at the person the same after. Finding someone else outside your relationship and sharing with them your physical and emotional affection burns bridges with your partner that are almost impossible to build again and few couples ever come back from this.
By giving yourself to someone else, emotionally or physically you give away that which is sacred to your relationship. That which is only meant to be shared with your partner. It leaves you separated and unable to connect and communicate on a deeper level. It builds anger, mistrust, doubt and can cause depression and some cases.
This is a major reason why relationships fail and also why there are so many unhappy relationships today.
QUOTES ABOUT LETTING GO AND MOVING ON.
Avoiding the big issues.
Avoiding the big issues in your relationship doesn’t help. It gives a false sense of security and the truth is it catches up with you one way or another. It is important to communicate with your partner and be on the same page regarding the small things and especially the big things that might affect your relationship dynamic and balance.
Some of the things to avoid in relationships include money and finances, Weaknesses and values. By talking about these things it helps you plan ahead and find ways to overcome that which might cause a problem. It improves communication and it brings you closer together.
Intimacy
Intimacy is important in a relationship. This is because it brings the couple closer together, expresses needs and satisfies urges. Having a healthy sex life in a relationship will definitely improve the bond you share. While men and women tend to approach this differently, the result is almost the same. Having a satisfying sexual life will improve your bond.
Men usually feel more connected to their partners after sex and women usually need to feel a connection before they engage in physical intimacy. But whichever way it happens, it improves the bond and forms a real connection between them. It is therefore vital to have a healthy sex life in a relationship because people tend to go looking for what they do not have elsewhere and this will definitely cause a problem in the relationship.
No respect and Equality.
Lack of respect in a relationship is a major reason why relationships fail today. Respect and Equality are very important because they encourage self-worth and then make a person feel valued and important. Being with someone that does not value you as a person, your opinions or your goals is very discouraging. it leads you to look elsewhere for self-worth and opens your eyes to the realisation that you might be with the wrong person.
Equality.
Equality in a relationship is also very important because it encourages teamwork and encourages growth and development towards common goals. If someone is not pulling their weight it leaves one person working twice as hard to achieve the same. This might introduce feelings of resentment or cause arguments in a relationship which will in turn cause it to fail.
It is important to feel like you are with someone who is working with you, someone that values your opinions, someone that shares the responsibility and someone to make decisions with especially concerning the life you share together. Achieving this will reduce the chances of your relationship failing.
MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES ABOUT FINDING YOURSELF.
No common goals.
Having a common goal keeps people working in the same direction and brings them closer together. It creates a sense of Unity and encourages more time with your partner. In a relationship if both parties are doing their own thing and not working together they’re not committing the same time, the same amount of energy, it creates a disconnect that leaves them separated and in turn causes the relationship to fail.
Poor Communication.
Communication is key in every relationship and it enables you to talk to your partner about everything. This is one of the things that builds your bond and brings you closer together. It also eliminates confusion in your day-to-day life and keeps you working together as a team. Bad communication is a reason why relationships fail today and is one that can be solved quite easily if both parties are willing to play their part.
Lack Of Compromise.
Compromise is key to every relationship. It is difficult to have everything you want all the time and not expect to have a cost. We have to give in order to receive and these simple practices of knowing how to make compromises and being flexible in your relationship keep you together longer and help you build a healthy space one in which you can both grow. Lack of compromise contributes to the many reasons why relationships fail. It is fuelled by selfishness and the inability to think about other people.
Emotional Or Physical Abuse.
Emotional and physical abuse is another major contributor to why relationships fail. Abuse whether physical or emotional should not be tolerated. It undermines a person’s self-worth and causes deeper emotional and psychological issues. It is important to know yourself and the things you deserve in life and importantly how to get them, and emotional or physical abuse it’s hardly the way towards happiness. Being a victim of such abuse encourages resentment and regret. It leaves a person feeling and valued unloved and unappreciated. It has no place in a relationship or Society today and such behaviour has been a contributing factor to why relationships fail.
Conclusion.
Relationships fail for many reasons and these are some of the contributing factors that might cause a relationship to fail. It is important to work on your relationship and also work on yourself to improve. Not every relationship makes it but maybe not every relationship is meant to make it. by discovering more of the people we are, it refills more fat people wish to become. That is why it is important to find someone that fulfils you, understands your dreams, your desires and compliments the individual you are.
Sincerely Yours.
